Tuesday, May 31, 2016
Monday, May 30, 2016
Stressing over summer break
Okay moms, summer is here and you will soon stop loading your little ones into the car every day of the week like you normally do and dropping them off at school where you are sure they will be using half of their day there and you can at least do one thing or the other before you pick them up again.
Lets not pretend too much, some of us actually look up to Monday, when our children will go off to school again and you will have little time to yourself either as a stay home mom, a part time working mom or even a full time mom.( maybe not too much for a mom that has more younger once that still stay home) But one or twice we have breathe that sigh of relieve when we drop them off.
Either because we want a break from the ones that can not stop chartering away asking every type of question that you can never imagine, or the ones that will not stop whining about one thing of the other, or the ones with a very strong personality and will challenge you about everything all day long if you let them, to say a few.
Now you are beginning to wonder what you are going to do when they are home all day all summer long and deep inside you it's almost like you are going crazy thinking of what to do, how to do it, when to do it. Checking out every advert on any activities for kids and hoping to get ones that you can afford so that your babies can enjoy their summer but most of all that you still remain your whole self by the time summer break ends.
Well, unlike many people will give advice on what to do that will make things okay, i don't think there are much you can do because those things will not go away and the most important thing is that you gave birth to them, they are yours and the will remain your even after summer break has ended. It's easier to say do this and this when some of the advice givers don't even have kids yet.
WHAT I CAN TELL YOU IS
I believe there are still more options out there but as you know i am not a professional when it comes to kids but one thing i am is that i am a MOTHER, and that counts. Thanks for reading and i hope you were able to relate to this a bit and gain something. See you soon like my 2 years old will always say.
Lets not pretend too much, some of us actually look up to Monday, when our children will go off to school again and you will have little time to yourself either as a stay home mom, a part time working mom or even a full time mom.( maybe not too much for a mom that has more younger once that still stay home) But one or twice we have breathe that sigh of relieve when we drop them off.
Either because we want a break from the ones that can not stop chartering away asking every type of question that you can never imagine, or the ones that will not stop whining about one thing of the other, or the ones with a very strong personality and will challenge you about everything all day long if you let them, to say a few.
Now you are beginning to wonder what you are going to do when they are home all day all summer long and deep inside you it's almost like you are going crazy thinking of what to do, how to do it, when to do it. Checking out every advert on any activities for kids and hoping to get ones that you can afford so that your babies can enjoy their summer but most of all that you still remain your whole self by the time summer break ends.
Well, unlike many people will give advice on what to do that will make things okay, i don't think there are much you can do because those things will not go away and the most important thing is that you gave birth to them, they are yours and the will remain your even after summer break has ended. It's easier to say do this and this when some of the advice givers don't even have kids yet.
WHAT I CAN TELL YOU IS
- Just relax, take the day as it comes and before you can say Jack Robinson, time is gone.
- Also try and do activities that they are interested in. When you engage them daily in things they really love to do, they are more excited and they are more in a relax mode.( Certify every activities first).
- Be involve with them by doing fun things together.
- Set goals for them, like reading some number of books for a particular period of time and seeing who read more, they will love it because children are competitive.
- Reward good behavior and it will motivate them to be good
I believe there are still more options out there but as you know i am not a professional when it comes to kids but one thing i am is that i am a MOTHER, and that counts. Thanks for reading and i hope you were able to relate to this a bit and gain something. See you soon like my 2 years old will always say.
Monday, May 16, 2016
Monday, May 9, 2016
Wednesday, May 4, 2016
Be Encouraged
Okay, i don't have to really think that deep before i know what i want to blog about today. Have you ever woken up and had those feeling of: hmm today is really going to be a hectic day and you started bracing yourself for what ever will come. Well that was the type of day i had yesterday.
I woke up feeling really tired even though i have been sleeping for like six hours( actually maybe less because i have a six months old). I managed to drag myself up from the bed to get my son ready for school and i just made sure i went through the whole day not feeling like myself. I had to continue attending to my kids despite the fact that i myself needs attention. my priority those moments are my kids
Enough of my story, what i am driving at is that, as parents, no mater how you feel, the little kids that we have do not stop demanding your attention or what they need from you. and its not really easy especially if you have more than one like myself.
And that is where self encouragement comes in, for that fact that no one is around to be a source of energy, that is the more reason why you should push on, encouraging and believing in yourself every step of the way.
Its actually easy for others to give you words of encouragement at the moment that you need it without checking back to see how you actually did. but if you are the one guiding yourself on, at the end of it all when you realized that you have scaled through, you will be able to give yourself a pat on the back because you understand where you are coming from.
likewise we should apply this type of method not only to taking care of our kids or doing house chores but to those big projects that you have to face and accomplish during your down times.
Always remember that down times are not forever, its just but for a moment.
https://www.facebook.com/EncourageASoul/
I woke up feeling really tired even though i have been sleeping for like six hours( actually maybe less because i have a six months old). I managed to drag myself up from the bed to get my son ready for school and i just made sure i went through the whole day not feeling like myself. I had to continue attending to my kids despite the fact that i myself needs attention. my priority those moments are my kids
Enough of my story, what i am driving at is that, as parents, no mater how you feel, the little kids that we have do not stop demanding your attention or what they need from you. and its not really easy especially if you have more than one like myself.
And that is where self encouragement comes in, for that fact that no one is around to be a source of energy, that is the more reason why you should push on, encouraging and believing in yourself every step of the way.
Its actually easy for others to give you words of encouragement at the moment that you need it without checking back to see how you actually did. but if you are the one guiding yourself on, at the end of it all when you realized that you have scaled through, you will be able to give yourself a pat on the back because you understand where you are coming from.
likewise we should apply this type of method not only to taking care of our kids or doing house chores but to those big projects that you have to face and accomplish during your down times.
Always remember that down times are not forever, its just but for a moment.
https://www.facebook.com/EncourageASoul/
Monday, May 2, 2016
Help for moms 2
I wrote about the situation of moms all over the world some few days ago and i want to believe most mothers understand my point and can relate to the contents of my writing.But rather for me to be the analyzer of what the problem is and how its affecting most people including me, i will rather think of a way out that will be beneficial to both myself and everyone that has the opportunity of reading this write up.
The questions that most of us ask are;
What can i do?
How can we help one another to achieve our aim?
In my own words i will like to tell us what we can do and how we can actually help our self and one another.
What can i do?
I have always believe that there is a way out of every situation even though the situation may be different and there are things i can do to better my situations but all we just need to try. Don't be defeated before the war starts.
One thing i know for sure is that women are strong both physically and mentally and are capable of achieving a lot by them self. You are already doing a lot by juggling all your activities so do not break down because you have it in you, bring out that strength in you, set out your priorities and try to achieve them one after the other without thinking too much of what is still left to be done. Take one step at a time.
How can we help one another to achieve our aim?
As much as everyone is busy with their lives, we can still come together as moms to help each other live a life void of stress.
Lets create care groups among ourselves and alternate who watches the kids at what time so that others can have a day off . Or if your circle of friends are the ones that prefer baby sitters, u can collectively hire one or two to babysit your kids together there by reducing the financial stress(which i will still blog about in details) Rely on your circle of support for advice, relief, and help with some of your hardest tasks.
Lets ask for help whenever we need it from the few people around us that are still willing to help. It may be family members, friends, neighbors, community groups and organizations or just anyone we truly know( please do not for any reason give you kids to strangers to watch) who is genuinely interested in a positive relationship where you both can help each other out.
I also want to say even when you ask for help and cant find non, keep your head up and just go on with your life, if anything or anyone at all have told you or still telling you that you cant achieve without outside help, just go on and show them you can.
And that is the greatest help you can find. YOU.
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